Attachment theory suggests that from the time we are born we form bonds and attachments to our caregivers. The strength and nature of these early childhood relationships can inform how our future selves will develop and evolve in relationships. Based on our very early childhood experiences in bonding and attachment we can take a closer look to check out our attachment style and what it can mean for us.

The most common phrase I hear in working with parents is, “I want my children to get what I was not afforded as a child. I never want my children to need… For Anything! What I needed as a child, I want my children to receive.” Naturally, our initial response would be to see this as heroic, an amazing mindset, and a great desire to have as a parent. Now, what I am about to discuss, I ask that you would have an open mind and take a step back with me… Because this response can be seen from a deeper and wider viewpoint.